GIRL – you need to stop gaslighting yourself into believing that things aren’t possible for you or you won’t be able to figure things out. I know that if you’re listening to this episode, that you have things you want to figure out and that you’re ready to grow into a version of yourself that you’re obsessed with. But to get there, you have to stop falling victim to your limiting beliefs and gaslighting yourself. When you do this, you will unlock so much success and growth in your life that it might just surprise you!
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Maddy:
Today's episode is brought to you by my therapist Mary. Hey bestie and welcome to the living in sunshine podcast. I'm your host, Maddie fry. And around here we are all about encouraging, inspiring, and giving you the tough love that you need to hear to get out there and live as your best self. Each and every Wednesday, you can expect to learn tangible tips to help you find your bigger purpose. be given simple action steps that you can take in order to make progress toward your biggest dreams. And hear how you can purposely pursue joy on the daily. So sit down, grab your favorite drink. And let's have a girl chat. This is the living in sunshine podcast. Good morning. Good morning. And Happy Wednesday. I hope you liked my little impromptu intro. Because this episode literally was inspired by my therapist Mary in case you are new here. I started therapy again back in August, July, August. And it has been so good for me personally. Not only am I in therapy, but my husband Lucas is also in therapy. We are all healing our trauma, which is fantastic, right? Like we're just all doing the thing. And today's episode, quite literally was inspired by a therapy session with Mary like three weeks ago. And I say this kind of as a joke, but also not as a joke, because it's a very real thing that as soon as she sent this to me, I was like, oh damn, I'm doing this. I know other women are doing this too. Okay, and if you read the title of today's new episode, you know that we are going to be talking about the idea of gaslighting yourself. And this is something that Mary called out any during a session I think I was talking about something with work or how I scheduled myself. And she's like, honestly, it sounds like you're gaslighting yourself and you need to stop. And I was like, Oh, damn, Mary, okay. But as I thought about it, I was like, she has a point because she continued to go on to talk about how we can sometimes get in our own head about whether or not we can do something, whether or not something is possible for us. And she's like, so often I hear people do this to themselves. And really what you're doing is you're gaslighting yourself into believing that this thing is not possible for you, or you can't do it this way. Or it's always been done like this. So changing it is not an option. And that's just not true. And so I am carrying the message from my therapy session to you that you need to stop gaslighting yourself, okay, you are stuck, potentially, because you are gaslighting yourself, you are making yourself believe that you are not able to attain something, you are not smart enough to figure something out, you do not have the resources to get to where you want to go, or your life is just the way that it is forever and ever and ever. And it's never going to change when literally none of those things could be further from the truth. And the reason I want you to hear this now, as we get closer to the end of the year, is because this is the best time to start to make changes, right? Over the next 567 weeks, we're gonna see a whole bunch of people talking about change your life make things better, or new year new me, and I love the sentiment. But sometimes we can hear that and we can still hear those little voices in our head being like, that's great for them. But that's not happening. For me, that's not possible for me. And those voices are literally gaslighting you into believing that they're true when they're not. Right. The other thing that we call these little thoughts are limiting beliefs. And in the six weeks you accelerator, this is my group coaching program, it opens in a couple of weeks, I'll link it down below in case you are interested in it. We actually talk about limiting beliefs. And we talk about how to unwind our limiting beliefs. So that way we know and we are self aware that they are actually holding us back instead of keeping us safe. Because every time we guys let ourselves or we fall victim to a limiting belief, or we talk ourselves out of doing something that is our body, that is our brain's natural response to keeping us safe. Because think about it if you are wanting to try something new, or make a change in your life, or go out on a limb and do something that you've always wanted to do, what is your body doing? It is reacting to the change and the experience that you maybe have never experienced before. And that triggers your fear receptors. And then what that does is it triggers your fight or flight mode and you're your brain, your body is either going to say, We can do this, or more than likely, if you haven't done a lot of internal work, this is impossible for us, we need to stay where we're at, you're not smart enough to figure this out. You don't have the money to do this Yatta Yatta, yatta yatta, limiting beliefs, gaslighting, all of these things in order to keep you safe. But the reality is, in order to grow, we've got to go right, like we've got to go after the things that we want. Even when we're scared, we have got to become self aware enough to recognize when we are gaslighting ourselves into believing that something is not possible for us, or that we can't figure something out when we can, we totally can. If you are listening to this podcast, I truly believe and I need you to start to believe that you are a fully capable woman who is fully able to figure her shit out if that's what she needs to do. You have the resources, you can get scrappy, you can find a friend, you can ask Google, anything is possible as long as you commit to the belief that you can figure it out. So if you have been moving through 2023 thinking, that's not for me, that's not possible. For me, this is how I've always done it. My so and so doesn't believe in me, stop it, knock it off. You are literally gaslighting yourself and you staying stuck into staying where you are. And if you are listening to this episode, I'm going to make the leap and assume that you don't want that. You don't want to stay where you are right now. Right? You want to grow, you want to get better. You want to live a life that brings you joy, and that you're excited to live every single day when you open up your eyes in the bright sunshiny morning, right? That's what you want. But to be able to do that, you've got to stop gaslighting yourself. And you've got to stop letting your limiting beliefs keep you safe. We do not grow all the time, metaphorically, right? Where we are safe, we just don't, we've got to get a little bit uncomfortable. And in order to get uncomfortable, we have to know that we have to step outside of the little safety bubble that our brain has created for us. And we have got to stop gaslighting ourselves into believing that staying where we are now is going to get us to where we want to go because it's not. So take the words of my beautiful angel therapist, Mary who I love and obsessed with literally lead lovers so watch and stop gaslighting yourself. 2024 is the year that you stop gaslighting yourself and you start hyping yourself up and say, I can figure this out. I've never done this, but I'm doing it anyway. People don't believe me, but I'm doing it anyway. I've never done this before, but I'm doing it anyway. I don't know how I don't know where I'm going, but I'm gonna figure it out along the way and I'm gonna have a whole hell of a lot of fun as they do, my friend. That is everything that I have for you today. Today's a short sweet to the point hybrid chat. I hope it was what you needed. If you have any major takeaways or you want to share this with a friend. 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